Please Answer My Question? What Would You Do if You Were in My Shoes? Please Be Honest?
Last year wһеח i wаѕ 26 years οƖԁ i wаѕ diganosed wіtһ breast cancer. I аm now cancer free. Bυt everyday I аm afraid οf a recurrence. I try tο block іt out οf mу mind аחԁ forget аbουt іt, bυt іt іѕ hard fοr mе tο ԁο. Mу life wіƖƖ never bе tһе same again. I wіƖƖ always bе іח fеаr bесаυѕе οf tһіѕ.
Tһе scary thing аbουt cancer іѕ tһаt іt саח return back even аftеr many years. Mу doctor һаѕ already informed mе tһаt іf іt returns again tһаt іt wіƖƖ bе incurable wһісһ i аm ѕο terrified аbουt. I аm ѕο young. I аm scared tο death. I don’t know wһаt tο ԁο.
I don’t really know һοw ѕһе саח ѕау tһаt іt wіƖƖ bе uncurable wһеח lots οf people ɡеt cancer more tһаח once аחԁ tһеу still survive іt. Something јυѕt tells mе tο prepare fοr having a recurrence іח tһе near future. I аm tһе type οf person wһο doesn’t Ɩіkе tο give mу hopes up, bесаυѕе i аm always Ɩеt down аחԁ i саח′t handle tһаt. Something tells mе tһаt i ѕһουƖԁ јυѕt prepare myself fοr a recurrence. Tһаt way іf іt ԁοеѕ happen again, maybe i’ll bе аbƖе tο deal wіtһ іt more better аחԁ won’t bе ѕο devasted wһеח іt returns bесаυѕе i’ve already expected fοr іt tο come back anyways. Aחԁ expecting fοr іt tο return wіƖƖ һеƖр mе deal wіtһ tһе situation mor better.
іtѕ hard fοr mе tο bе positive іח tһіѕ situation wһеח 90% οf people һаνе recurrences. If уου wеrе mе wουƖԁ уου fell tһе same way аѕ i ԁο? Wһаt wουƖԁ уου ԁο іf уου wеrе іח mу shoes? Hοw wουƖԁ уου feel? Aחԁ please bе һοחеѕt. I feel іtѕ easy fοr people wһο′ve never һаԁ cancer tο ѕау tһаt tһеу wouldn’t feel tһе same way.
Tһіѕ іѕ a serious qυеѕtіοח аחԁ i need οחƖу serious аחѕwеrѕ. Nοt jokes аחԁ Sarcasm.
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12 Comments on “Please Answer My Question? What Would You Do if You Were in My Shoes? Please Be Honest?”
no. i would try to have sex with my lover as much as possible. like i am going to die tomarrow so i should enjoy myself. happy actually, i would do whatever the fuck i wanted.
i have had skin cancer, but that won’t kill me.
Your right I have never been in your shoes or gone through what you are experiencing. I have heard though, that when you stress over illness like this you are more likely to cause a reoccurrence. I understand about how you cannot have a positive attitude about this due to your concern. May I suggest you check out the internet or your local hospital to see if they have any support groups. This would help you as there would be others who would have and are going through the same.
they have breast cancer support groups. A client of mine attends one and she loves it, it has helped her tremendously. She is also super young, it’s lucky you found it because most doctors won’t check for breast cancer in younger women. My client has had 17 surgeries, and a rough time, it’s horrible. I think you will always be vigilant, but I think over time your fear and feelings of doom will weaken. You may have PTSD. You should get some counseling.
The best thing to do in such a situation is to avoid a lot of stress in your life and try to live a healthy lifestyle.
The immune system often fights cancer and prevents its recurrence. But stress and unhealthy lifestyle can decrease one’s immunity and predispose to recurrence of cancer.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/3132260.stm
If I was in your position, I would be really worried and definitely really paranoid, but don’t let it take over your life. Be vigilant and take good care of yourself. Exercise a lot and a eat foods with high antioxidant levels. Also eat a lot of green vegetables and drink green tea. But just make sure you’re always on the lookout and get regular mammograms, which I’m sure you have to do anyways. But I would be super paranoid if i was going through what you are and I would end up telling myself there was a recurrence for the same reason you said. Good luck! : )
If it were me, i would do anything in MY power to stop it. You can get sick less if you exercise, and eat right. For the emotional part, think about this: if it was going to come back for sure (not saying it will) would you want to spend the rest of your life dwelling on the fact that it would? Wouldn’t you wanna get out and do the things you want to, like sky diving or going on a non-gravity air plane? at least when you find out its back (not saying that will happen) you will know that you did everything you wanted to.
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I’m sorry about your situation, I don’t know what is like to have breast cancer and I guess it give you some relief when you became cancer-free. But don’t work yourself up. If you know that there might be a recurrence just try to enjoy life to your best ability. Don’t think about it. If you do get it again remember you will have your family and friends to support you. I would suggest you pray. God works in mysterious ways.
I hope you don’t get breast cancer again
You sound like the sexual assault victim that never leaves her house for fear of a recurrent attack. When we do this then the perp, in your case the disease wins and we stop living. Don’t. Make everyday count. No one knows how long they have. No one! You are cancer free today and today is all anyone has. Live it! If and when it does return then and only then you will deal with it. If I may make a suggestion maybe you could talk to other cancer survivors. It is a fantastic group and I’m sure you have much you could share with others. Good luck and I will keep you in my prayers.
How awful! I’ve seen two loved ones die of cancer and have another who’s in and out of doctor’s offices because of it. I can only imagine how horrible it must feel to be faced with that at such a young age. My heart goes out to you.
First thing I would do is get a second opinion from another doctor. They make mistakes just like all people do and it may prove better for you to hear another professional’s view on it. There’s a difference with accepting reality and just giving up and if one doc gives up on you don’t let that be the final word.
As far as living with that constant shadow in your life, the only real advice I can give is don’t let it control you. There’s a saying that says “Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it”. I think that’s true in many ways. I think you should take time to reflect on your life and what’s important to you, and then live each day as it comes to the best of your ability. People with happy full lives tend to get sick less and even do better when fighting cancer. It’s all about doing what you want to do and not leaving things undone and words left unsaid.
Cherish your moments, cherish your friends and family. Let them know how much you care. Don’t let anything keep you back from doing what you want to do. People in your situation understand more than most how precious life is and how wrong it is to waste it away. So please don’t waste yours and even if life is cruel and takes you away too early, at least you can know that you lived and made the most of the time you were given.
God bless.
I would feel the same way as you. Though I would also probably come from it with a realization that life is short and that I should try to live my life with joy and the way I want to live it. Also my cousin had cancer at a young age, I think 17 or 18 and she survived from it and has been cancer free for years now. I think she is 26 or 27 now.
You should see a therapist. You have been through a lot and need to understand and get clarification on how you are now.
You need time to grieve. Grieving is not just for death. You should grieve ALL the time about everything. It’s a passing or change of one thing and a chance for change or a new thing.
A family of mine just had a mastectomy and aggressive breast cancer. She will definitely need a lot of support and help in the coming weeks as she recovers.
You do too. If you continually focus on the bad, the fear, your stress and anxiety will rise so much that you won’t be able to function one day. The more you think about it or try to avoid it, the more sensitive you will be to it and the harder it will be for you to react or deal with it.
Go to support groups or meetings where you can talk to others in your position and get advise from someone who has been through it.
You are so young to have cancer at that age, which is very uncommon and there is NO reason for the doctor to tell you it is incurable next time. They aren’t fortune tellers! Just statistics.
Take one day at a time, eat right, exercise, find happiness and positive in all and you will be able to accept yourself again.
Good luck.
Angel i think alot of people here have given you some good advice but i also understand that some people here including myself are not going through your particular situation.
I think to be honest i would feel like you do and deep down this would affect me psychologically.I don’t think that expecting it will happen will make you feel better but id think being PREPARED for it will.Now expecting and being prepared are 2 different things.Expecting means the inevitable will happen but being prepared doesn’t necessarily mean it will happen,If it does happen at least you will know how to deal with it and prepared for it.Focus on other things in your life and plan to do things as if nothing is going to stand in the way.Its like preparing and training for a war it doesnt mean that it will happen but at least you are trained if it does.Lame example but best one i think of at this time in the morning:)
Dont allow this to mess you up in your head aswell as your body.
Id say be positive,maybe this is the wrong word but sometimes in life there are things we cannot change or cannot shy away from but its how we spend the time that we have and what we do with that time that counts and sitting and worrying doesnt help achieve that.
Nothing ,like someone said before is guaranteed anything can happen to me but im going out of this world kicking and fighting and laughing all the way.My advice for you is to do the same and dont surrender to something that may or may not happen.Yes do as the others suggested and go to support groups that will help,see your friends and get yourself a decent love.Friends, love ,fun is what makes us forget about the worst of life but they all help to achieve a level of happiness to deal with the unfortunate and bad points in our lives.
Cheer up,its gone for now and dont expect it back but if it does then be prepared to deal with it.Youve already been through it once you know what you need to go through if it happens again.So youve already ventured into the realm of the unknown and came out wiser and was cured.